My mum is the one woman who has told me time and time again and that is, "experience is the best teacher". For awhile, I did not quite understand what she meant but I remember the saying settling with me in middle school and jamming to Alicia Key's Lesson Learned my graduating year of middle school. We each go through our individual experiences and encounter the good, bad, odd and confused happenings. Needless to say, we all have a story and in that we go through life learning lessons. Here are some elements to how you know you did...
1. Be it good or bad, you take something from it. A lesson is well learned when you carry something out of the situation. It could be a good thought or sometimes a negative feeling you never want to feel again. There is pain, confusion or even an uplifting feeling on cloud-nine. In short, it becomes an unforgettable experience.
2. You ask meaningful questions. As a Brooklynite, or a New Yorker in general, I was taught to have my guard up a good percentage of the time so it is natural for me to ask questions. In life learned lessons however, deep questions are asked depending on the situation. "Why does this person feel comfortable talking to me about this?" "Why am I getting mixed messages?" If your eyebrow in raised or you have that What-you-talkin-bout-willis* look, then nine times out of ten, things aren't right. Ask the questions.
3. You either distance yourself or draw yourself closer. This happens all the time. Within questioning a situation, you will find yourself either distancing yourself from everything associated with the event or wanting to become more involved with a particular matter.
4. Your outlook is changed. Be it slightly or completely your view on whatever is you are going through is altered positively or negatively. Views are changed and depending on the situation, you either are translucent or opaque.
5. You are more attuned with yourself. Here is when your beliefs grow and you are poised in your understandings. A life lesson can range from a day to years and in that you grow in experience and through this you grow in a deeper understanding in who you are and you are comfortable in your own accord.
6. You become more confident. I guess you can say this intertwines with number five, but there is a sight difference. In growth, you will be more confident and assured in yourself and your beliefs. The experience experienced was lived through by you. No one can take that away. Be confident in that.
7. The lesson becomes a life reference to you in the future. When the younger generation asks you for some advice, rest assured you will have no problem giving them insight and the low down on whatever it is they need advice in. Again, experiences can be good and bad...but in the end, a lesson is meant to be learned and a scar of experience should not be hidden but embraced.
I am sure there are a number of other signs in regards to a lesson learned, but these I found to be the key points. Coincidentally enough, or not, service today alluded to change and we all go through them in life. My pastor said something that ended up writing down because of how distinctive he said it.
"If you don't learn from the lesson of history, you are doomed to repeat it" -H. W. Jr.
Comment below on what changes you went through via life lessons! Hope your Sunday is going great!
* Yes...I watched a couple episodes of Different Strokes.